In learning to love ourself, we get to know ourself and treat ourself with the love that we deserve. And coincidentally, that leads to us treating others with love. I’ve written a lot and spoken a lot with my clients about the idea that if we don’t love ourselves we can’t give it. For a physical example, if I don’t have a glass of water, I can’t give you a glass of water, period.
Taking that further, if I don’t love myself and think I don’t deserve love, how in the world am I going to connect with somebody with true love? I will keep attracting somebody else who also somehow doesn’t believe that I deserve love (and chances are they don’t believe they do either) and, possibly deserve, in their eyes, to be lied to cheated on hit, disrespected. Whatever we think it is that we deserve will be reflected in the relationship we have with others. We teach others by our energy and actions how to treat us. So if we do not love and accept ourselfs, we will find ourselves feeling unloved and unaccepted by others, wondering why we never fit in anywhere. Our life is just reflecting what we’re already expecting, and our experiences coincide with what we’re already expecting.
So next time you find yourself in a relationship, where you feel disrespected, look and see if you’re respecting yourself. Chances are you’re not respecting yourself. And when you love yourself, you will be more able to recognize when the divine is giving you a message because you will be able to filter what is true and what is not true.
For example, there were two weeks where the theme with some of my clients was lying to themselves. You can bet I spent a lot of time going within and finding out where I was lying to myself. And it was a rather big lie that I have been living with for years, probably since my childhood. Now I have the opportunity to change that by looking at how this belief has manifested, how lying to myself, has manifested. The next step is remembering to feel love for myself, then ask myself how this started with me in the past? Am I loving myself to continue having this experience? And, if not, how can I resolve this, my mistake, my lie to myself, and have the least hurt possible with those I love? I can also look at how can I grow from this and prevent this experience from continuing. I then continue to build the loving life of my desires in a conscious way.
When we love to God, then ourselves, – we can change our lives for the better. And we are more able to give others love also.
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