What we focus on builds and expands. There is now a lot of research out there documenting this idea. McTaggert and her book, “The Intention Experiment” was the dawning of putting what we intuitively realize into experiments proving that our intentions/thoughts create what we experience and that idea/focus/thought expanded from there. Now, we have a lot of research that has jumped on the bandwagon, proving that what we focus on builds and expands in our life.
The basic premise is again, what we think and focus on is what we perceive – everywhere! I had a client who received an email at the end of a trying day, when he was in a bad mood. He skimmed it and concluded his boss wasn’t happy with him and he was going to get fired. He wrote a scathing letter, didn’t email it (wisely decided to proof it when he wasn’t angry) and went to bed. Next day, re-reading the letter, he realized his boss was actually complimenting him! Good thing he didn’t send the letter!
This is an example of how our thoughts which lead to emotions, then color the lenses, read “energy”, through which we perceive and experience our lives. This example also demonstrates how our behavior then can create the very thing we feared! If my client had sent that email, chances are there would’ve been negative repercussions – and possibly a firing, what he was afraid of. He could’ve created what his negative thought and focus was about in the first place.
Another type of situation is fairly common when we look back in hindsight. Often in relationships, our programming/thoughts are based on what we experienced in the home, our genetics can also predict negative/positive thoughts leading to our emotions, leading to our behavior. We unconsciously keep recreating our childhood experiences and those experiences expand. Therefore, these underlying subconscious thoughts are recreating the relationship our parents had- that’s why I think the relationships of children of divorce often end in divorce. This pattern is already programmed in the subconscious, a way to recreate abandonment, not being good enough, not lovable enough, and the need to please others as examples of dysfunctional relationships.
So, please be mindful of how you think, because it’s how you create your life. If you are having difficulty identifying negative thoughts and working through trauma, set up an appointment by emailing or texting to the number below. I love helping people increase the joy and love in their life – starting with them learning to love themselves!