We are told to have an “attitude of gratitude”…. a lot. What happens when you find yourself out of the flow of gratitude? What can you do? 

You can create it! You are a creator, so you can develop and use this skill. 

Right now, I am sitting outside on this beautiful autumn day and it is easy (so easy!) to feel and connect with gratitude. With my feet in the soft, cool grass, and the bird song, the sun shining down and the crisp air, it is sooo easy to feel grateful. Unlike earlier in the day. Earlier today, I realized my phone wasn’t working as a client called and the phone stopped ringing and disconnected, not forwarding it to my office staff. I had been wondering about the phone since it had been acting up, yet didn’t want to take the time to check it out – after all, it would be a bother – right? 

So, here I am, on a day already filled, and of course for my clients I want to be available, so I call the company. At first the young woman was short, and did not know the answer and hung up. I was frustrated, and “trying” to be grateful. Allowing myself to process the frustration, I became calm and relaxed which then assisted me into connecting with gratitude from the heart, knowing there is somehow a lesson here for me. Playing with the phone for a while, I realize perhaps it is the SIM card. So, out I go to the store and approach the young lady who had hung up on me. To my surprise, she is very pleasant and had looked up what might be the issue, patiently fixing the issue on my phone, saving me money. I am very grateful to her. 

I do not know how things may have been different if I had gone to the store in an attitude of righteousness, anger, or frustration – any of the egoic emotions that separate us from each other. As it was, it was a very pleasant experience and I expressed my gratitude to her. She seemed unaccustomed to praise and gratitude. How sad. I suspect my experience would have been different if I had gone in all egoic and blustery. 

So, what’s my lesson? Gratitude changes everything. To learn to create and connect with gratitude anytime, even when things are uncomfortable is a choice. How you can start is by noticing what you are grateful for. Feel the emotion in your heart. Connect with this feeling of gratitude. Anchor it by putting your hand on your heart. Practice this every time you feel gratitude. Another practice I suggest to clients, is for you to feel and connect with your breath before you even get out of bed in the morning. Then, with your hand on your heart, connect with the feeling of grateful. Find three things to be grateful for. Really feel the gratitude. That’s important. If you just go through the motions without the energy and emotion behind them, there will be little change. 

You may also choose to do this at night before going to sleep as your subconscious mind will then go over and over those connections creating a new neuro pathway, a new program in your bio computer, so that when you are feeling anything but love and gratitude, you now have a program or habit you can use to create that feeling of gratitude. All you have to do is put your anchor, your hand, on your heart and connect with the emotion of gratitude. If you have difficulties, you can imagine something that you are grateful about or for. Congratulations! You are using your creator ability to create gratitude anytime you want! 


Quote of the Month

“Some people grumble
that roses have thorns;
I am grateful
that thorns have roses.”

Alphonse Karr

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